It is a small community but most of us that are still playing have stuck with it as even with all the problems, bugs and lags, it is still a fascinating, involved, brilliant, exceptional, fantastic game.
You just have to learn the best way to get MP games in the lobby. Host your own games rather than join others then you will wear the trousers till you have enough experience to join and enjoy non noob games.
Just put noob in the title of your game till you have 300 under your belt. Even then you will still be classed as noob if you have a low win ratio percentage. This will exclude you from some games. The best games are with both sides evenly matched skill wise. The game just doesn't work at all with an imbalance of skills.